Puppy love

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Puppy love, also known as a crush, is an informal term for feelings of romantic love, often felt during childhood and early adolescence. [1] It is an infatuation usually developed by someone's looks and attractiveness at first sight. It is named for its resemblance to the adoring, worshipful affection that may be felt by a puppy. Puppy love typically lasts between 2 months and 2 years, and is thought to be fueled by preadolescent hormones. Some scientists, however, think it is initiated as a result of the natural development of the brain at the onset of preadolescence. [2]

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The term can be used in a derogatory fashion, presuming the affair to be shallow and transient in comparison to other forms of love. [3] Sigmund Freud, however, was far from underestimating the power of early love, recognizing the validity of "the proverbial durability of first loves". [4]

Characteristics

Puppy love is a common experience in the process of maturing. [5] The object of attachment may be a peer, but the term can also describe the fondness of a child for an adult. Most often, the object of the child's infatuation is someone years older, like a teacher, friend of the family, actor, or musician, about whom the child will spend their time daydreaming or fantasizing. [6]

A crush is described as a coming-of-age experience where the child is given a sense of individualism because they feel intimate emotions for a person not part of their own family. [7]

History

In 1950, China promulgated the Marriage Law, which established a new democratic marriage system of monogamy with freedom and equality as the core concept. Among other things, the Marriage Law stipulated that "a man may marry at the age of 20 and a woman at the age of 18." [8] However, since the 1960s, as China's population growth problem became more pronounced and the years of education were extended, the concept of "late marriage and late childbearing" began to be commonly advocated, followed by the formation and stigmatization of the concept of "early love." [9] As late as the 1990s, China continued to crack down on "early love" among college students. [10]

After the new marriage law came into effect in 1980, the legal age of marriage in China was adjusted to "no earlier than 22 for men and 20 for women." [8] The act of "early love" was considered contrary to the policy of the time, and was increasingly rejected by social values and equated with "feudal superstition" and "obscenity and pornography".[ citation needed ]

In recent years, with the change of family planning policy and the gradual opening of the concept of marriage, the age range of "early love" is basically narrowed down to junior high and high school years. [11] However, under the academic pressure of "one exam for life" and the traditional concept of marriage, schools and parents still have a negative attitude towards the phenomenon of "early love", worrying that the youthful love will take up the energy of the children and have a negative impact on their studies and their health. Therefore, the current social environment is not conducive to early love. Therefore, the current social environment for the phenomenon of "early love" is still based on preventive measures, do not support or advocate, if it happens, the school level may intervene depending on the situation. [12]

Statistics

China

The 2022 Child Welfare League study of Taiwan students aged 11-15 showed that: [13]

  1. Nearly 40% of junior high school students and over 20% of elementary school students said they wanted to fall in love now
  2. 32.9% of children said they had fallen in love, up significantly from 26.6% in 2014;
  3. 38.7% of the longest relationship lasted less than three months, 59.1% lasted less than six months, and 22.8% of the longest relationship more than one year; [14]
  4. 44.5% thought that falling in love could hold hands and hug, 19.7% could kiss, and 4.2% could have sex.

A survey of high school students in a provincial model high school in Sichuan in 2021 showed:

  1. 64.9% had not been in love, 27.7% had been in love one to three times, and 6.4% had been in love four to six times; [15]
  2. 10.6% were in love, and most of the students who were in love ranked higher in the most recent exam than the last one, different from most teachers' claim that most early love is detrimental to academic performance. [16]

A survey of parents of high school students in Panyu Middle School in Guangdong in 2004 showed that:

  1. 23.5% of parents were firmly opposed to adolescent love, 56.6% did not support it, and 16.2% understood it;
  2. 13.2% of parents were firmly opposed to high school students dating the opposite sex, 33.8% did not support it, 48.6% did not care or understood it, and 11.8% agreed with it;
  3. 43.4% of parents thought that teenagers do not necessarily need heterosexual relationships to grow up;
  4. 23.4% of fathers and 12.5% of mothers will interfere and criticize their children after finding out they are in love. [17]

United States

Data from Add Health in the United States shows:

  1. About a quarter of 12-year-olds report having been in a relationship, and nearly three-quarters of 18-year-olds report having been in a relationship. [18]
  2. Female, older, adolescents with step-parents are less likely to have never been in a relationship, and African-American, Asian, and low-income adolescents are more likely to have never been in a relationship, [19] [20] while African-American, low-income adolescents, once in a relationship, tend to skip casual dating and develop a stable relationship. [21]
  3. Female, older, adolescents with step-parents were more likely to maintain a stable relationship, while Asian adolescents were less likely. [22]
  4. Adolescents who were female, older, and from incomplete or low-income families were more likely to have sexual intercourse with a lover. [23]
  5. Female adolescents were more likely to report having emotional intimacy, while African-American and Latino adolescents were less likely. Adolescents with more relationship experiences were significantly more likely to be alone with their lovers, to have sexual intercourse, and to report excellent emotional intimacy. [23]

Cultural and entertainment presentation

Western, Japanese and Thai anime, feature films and children's dramas directly depict underage relationships, as seen in Disney animation, superhero comics and many works of Hayao Miyazaki. Western films and television works also focus on the beauty of underage relationships, which also stimulates the intrinsic motivation of the protagonists to strive to become better for each other, and even achieve a two-way relationship that promotes and supports each other. [24]

Mainland Chinese film and television productions tend to avoid underage relationships, but not completely, and occasionally they end in sadness, thus "conveying to the teenage audience the value of staying away from early love". [25] In 2002, mainland China introduced the Japanese animation "Chibi Maruko-chan", deleting the single episode related to the emotional development of the male and female protagonists in their early teens, and altering the male protagonist's final "I like you" confession to "I've always thought you were nice". Underage relationships are often the result of long periods of time together and slow accumulation of feelings in mainland Chinese films and television productions, and are often presented as a distraction from important matters and detrimental to the protagonist's life, in which the parents are treated like enemies and the protagonist often gives in and gives up in the face of external obstacles. [24]

In mainland China, the current General Rules for the Production of TV Series Content, issued in late 2015, the current General Rules for Content Review of Internet Audio-Visual Programs, issued in 2017, and the current Rules for Content Review Standards for Internet Short Video, issued in 2019, all refer to "early love among minors" as " bad behavior", "adverse effects on minors" or "detrimental to the healthy growth of minors", stating that "content showing minors in early love" The content of the "expression of early love" "shall not appear." The current regulation, "Regulations on the Administration of Programs for Minors," published by order of the General Administration of Radio, Film and Television in 2019, also states that "programs for minors shall not" "affirm or approve of early romance among minors." [26]

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